This phase has your child in a transition. Their bodies are changing physically and hormonally. They are hyper-aware of themselves and their peers. They navigate between who they want to be and who others want them to be.
Fifth graders can be difficult to understand at times. They love you one minute but ignore you the next. They play with childhood toys but want to be treated like an adult. They crave your affirmation but are embarrassed when you give it. Your fifth grader is still a kid, but you’re starting to get glimpses of what life as a teenager might be.
If you want to get their attention, try making it a competition. Your fifth grader feels like he/she has a “lifetime” of experience, that may make them feel unstoppable in this phase. They are ready to prove themselves and ready for the world to take notice. They also lack the wisdom and awareness that might slow them down. They can’t wait to show you how smart and fast and strong they really are.
Fifth graders often project a confident exterior while hiding their fears and insecurities. They may verbalize “I’ve got this” while wrestling with self-doubt. This is an incredible opportunity to build resilience in your child. Helping them with developing grit to overcome tough challenges will serve them for the rest of their life. Take advantage of their natural stubbornness to guide them toward persistence in achieving tasks and solving problems. Every fifth grader needs to fail at something so they can know what it takes to pick themselves up and keep going. Nothing builds character, grit, and perseverance like failure.
"Can I get through hard things?"
They need to experience moderate failure and consequences to build resilience.
Take these actions to build resilience in your fifth grader:
Parenting Your Fifth Grader by Kristen Ivy and Reggie Joiner
Mindset by Carol Dweck
Grit by Angela Duckworth
The Coddling of the American Mind by Greg Lukianoff & Jonathan Haidt
The Yes Brain by Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson
How Children Succeed by Paul Tough
Rising Strong by Brené Brown
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